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| The Signal Is The Love
Love Without Asterisks is a podcast about what happens when the blueprint you’ve built your life around no longer fits the people you love most. If you have an LGBTQ+ someone in your life, this is for you. In Episode 1, Jeff welcomes longtime friend Peter Fulmer—dad to two LGBTQ kids—to show how presence, not perfection, becomes the clearest signal of love.
Jeff, in his intro, lays the foundation for what’s ahead by naming the gap between a worldview shaped by tradition and the lived reality of parenting an LGBTQ+ child. He and Peter trace how moving from fixing to listening became the turning point, and why the clearest signal amid all the cultural and religious noise is always love.
Jeff, in his intro, lays the foundation for what’s ahead by naming the gap between a worldview shaped by tradition and the lived reality of parenting an LGBTQ+ child. He and Peter trace how moving from fixing to listening became the turning point, and why the clearest signal amid all the cultural and religious noise is always love.
Peter Fulmer is a real estate professional and former sportscaster whose love of the game extends beyond the field to the stories that define people's lives. In Oklahoma City, he's deeply involved in the fight to eradicate homelessness, bringing the same persistence and heart to that mission that he brings to every corner of his life. A lifelong sports fan, he's drawn to the drama, resilience, and humanity in every play, on and off the scoreboard.
But his proudest title is Dad to two LGBTQ children, now adults, whose lives have shaped his understanding of unconditional love. With them, his love is steady, fiercely protective, and rooted in the belief that nothing —no opinion, no obstacle—should ever get in the way of showing up fully for your LGBTQ+ kid.
But his proudest title is Dad to two LGBTQ children, now adults, whose lives have shaped his understanding of unconditional love. With them, his love is steady, fiercely protective, and rooted in the belief that nothing —no opinion, no obstacle—should ever get in the way of showing up fully for your LGBTQ+ kid.
In their conversation, they discuss practical ways to tune toward connection and mute the static of fear, bias, and external expectations of faith communities, family, and culture. They explore how the very obstacles parents fear can become the pathway to deeper trust and presence, and why showing up imperfectly is more powerful than waiting for the perfect words. They unpack where “helping” can unintentionally slip into control, how silence from circles without vocabulary can feel isolating, and why one honest friendship became a lifeline.
Peter also shares how his family faced bullying and safety concerns, underscoring that keeping a child alive, anchored, and loved must come before everything else. Together, they reflect on the power of transformative encounters, echoing Dr. David Gushee’s insight that lived experience at your own table changes everything.
If you have an LGBTQ+ someone in your life, this first episode offers both hope and clarity. It’s not about fixing a problem, it’s about staying present, protecting connection, and letting love...not noise...set the frequency.
In this conversation you’ll hear:
Peter also shares how his family faced bullying and safety concerns, underscoring that keeping a child alive, anchored, and loved must come before everything else. Together, they reflect on the power of transformative encounters, echoing Dr. David Gushee’s insight that lived experience at your own table changes everything.
If you have an LGBTQ+ someone in your life, this first episode offers both hope and clarity. It’s not about fixing a problem, it’s about staying present, protecting connection, and letting love...not noise...set the frequency.
In this conversation you’ll hear:
- Signal vs. Noise: Practical ways to tune toward connection and mute the static of fear, bias, and external expectations of faith communities, family, and culture.
- The Obstacle Is the Way: How the very tension parents fear can become the pathway to deeper trust and presence.
- Presence over Perfection: Why showing up imperfectly is more powerful than waiting for the perfect words.
- Blind Spots & Bias: Where “helping” can unintentionally slip into control—and how to step back into empathy.
- Silence & Loneliness: What it feels like when your circles don’t have a vocabulary for this—and how one honest friendship became a lifeline.
- Safety First: Why the ultimate priority is keeping your child alive, anchored, and loved—everything else is noise.
- Transformative Encounters: Why lived experience at your own table changes everything, echoing Dr. David Gushee’s insights.
If you have an LGBTQ+ someone in your life, this first episode offers both hope and clarity. It’s not about fixing a problem—it’s about staying present, protecting connection, and letting love—not noise—set the frequency.